Nina Atwood Enterprises
Nina Atwood, M.Ed., L.P.C. is a licensed therapist in private practice in Dallas, Texas, and author of the books,
Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-By-Step Guide to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships
Date Lines: Communication From "Hello" to "I Do" and Everything In Between.
She is an in-demand, nationally-known speaker and workshop leader, and has appeared on numerous radio and television talk shows. Her expertise is sought by publications such as Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Mademoiselle, Complete Woman, and Men's Health magazines. With clients, she acts as both a therapist and a coach, helping singles achieve healthy, lasting, and romantic relationships.
Welcome to SinglesCoach! We launched this site three years ago, in January of 1996, with the express intention of creating a quality service designed specifically to meet the personal growth needs of single men and women. Since then, the response has been phenomenal and it continues to grow day by day.
I began writing, teaching, and studying the phenomenon of being single and dating over twelve years ago, at a time in my life when I was single and searching. (Since then, I've been married and divorced, but that is another story!) What I wanted to know, in a nutshell, was how to go about dating in a way that created, not just any kind of connection, but loving, healthy relationships that contained the possibility of lifelong love.
I found, at that time, that there weren't many resources for singles that focused on how to do that. There were lots of books about how to flirt and how to strategize the search for a partner, but nothing that contained the substance of what it takes to attract and maintain a healthy relationship. So, I began to do the research myself, and from that came what I can only term a philosophy and an approach (not a set of how-to's) for dating, which is the foundation of all my books, columns, and workshops.
Dating is Relating
Contrary to popular belief, dating is not a time of life in which you live by a set of strategies and rules which result in a relationship, and that once you have one you can then have open, honest, loving communication. Dating IS relating. One cannot be distinguished from the other, and that how we go about dating and making social connections has a profound influence on the kinds of partners we will attract and the health of our romantic love relationships.
Being single is not a train station in life, at which we sit patiently waiting for something good to roll in, and that once a decent person comes by we can then begin to live. That's very old thinking and no longer applies to today's world. The reality of today is that over half of all marriages lead to divorces and that we don't know the percentages of broken dating relationships but we know that it's even higher. The truth is that we have no guarantees that the love of today will be the one of tomorrow. Therefore, it is our responsibility to create and maintain a high quality of life regardless of whether we're single or married.
Love is an energy that flows between two people. We have influence over that energy, but never direct control. You can't make someone like you or love you, and you can't force someone to stay in your life. Therefore, we must approach relationships in today's world with lots of self-care and with a focus on something other than trying to force it to work. That focus should be on personal growth, and particularly on learning about what it takes to have healthy, loving relationships.